I have three points I want to make sure to get across here… I promise the end point is encouraging!
- Researchers identified the “perfect body shape” for women based on cultural preferences in various countries (click here to view – ugh). What did it tell me? Well, one, that “beauty” is determined by cultural influences. Researchers found the “ideal” 5’4″ woman’s weight in China was considered to be 102 pounds, however in Columbia, it was 147 pounds. There truly is NO perfect body shape! NONE. So if you’re a woman who looks in the mirror and says you don’t measure up…well, WHO’S STANDARD are you trying to measure by? Take that pressure off yourself NOW because every body standard is simply subjective to a bunch of people’s preferences in society, people who have no individual interest in YOU!
- Now, the really important second point is this … beauty is not defined by a body shape! There is inner beauty of kindness and compassion. There is intelligence that just humbles me in its scope. There is external beauty, like hair that is thick and wavy, or straight and smooth, or curly and out-of-control. There is skin that is chocolate, or porcelain, or anywhere in between. There are blue eyes, brown eyes, green eyes, black eyes. Young and old. There are smile-line wrinkles, wisdom-old wrinkles, and skin as smooth as a baby’s butt! There are large bodies and small bodies. Who is to say what is beautiful? It’s YOUR place to say what makes YOU feel beautiful. Have grey hair and color it and that makes you feel beautiful? Ok! Love your grey hair and flaunt it? Ok, too! Have a curvy shape and it makes you feel feminine? Embrace it. No one has the corner on determining whether you are beautiful or not.
- Here’s the third catch. Getting HEALTHY is different than getting beautiful! When one begins a journey of HEALTH, they end up feeling beautiful from the inside out! If what you are putting into your body, or on your skin is poison, toxic, known-to-be-bad-for-you food or products, it affects your mood, self-esteem, energy levels, and all around well-being. If you were worried about your beauty, transfer that energy into getting healthy.
So don’t be deceived that your beauty is a body shape or a number on the scale! Don’t allow a cultural preference to dictate your esteem! Fight against that! For me? Well, I’m determined to work on “me” from the inside out. I care about pursuing compassion and kindness as a human being, deepening my faith in God, pursuing healthy eating habits and physical strength, pursuing education and learning new things, and lastly, about touching others’ lives so that I make a difference by being in the world. Now THAT is beautiful to me…
Valerie’s Nugget: If you were worried about your beauty, transfer that energy into getting healthy.